All couples face problems in their relationship,
but not all problems lead to breaking up.
Relationship fail for different reasons; the key is
to figure out how to solve the problems in your priorities.
Below are the major reasons why relationships failed.
Below are the major reasons why relationships failed.
1. Broken promises, lying, cheating, stealing.
These violations of trust almost always result in
relationship problems, and is an obvious reasons
a relationship fails. If the basic trust in a love
relationship is repeatedly broken, problems
accumulate and the motivation to stay together
decreases. Couples in loving relationships can
learn to reconcile their differences – and even
survive a physical or emotional affair without
anger or bitterness.
2. Imbalance of power
In relationships Couples
may be more likely to break up when one partner
has more decision-making power than the other.
When one person makes all the decisions about
activities, friends, financial matters, household
matters, and vacations, the relationship isn’t
balanced or loving, and quickly becomes
unstable. Both partners should equally share the
decision-making power.
3. Acceptance of stereotypes in relationships.
This was once a more common reason
relationships failed, but it still exists today!
Mistaken gender myths include beliefs such as
“Men should earn more money than women” or
“Women should stay at home and raise the kids.”
If couples believe these stereotypes, they create
false expectations that can lead to splitting up.
4. Isolation from friends and family.
This reason
for splitting up is based on fear and insecurity;
new couples may isolate themselves from other
people because they’re “in love and want to be
together.” A brief period of cocooning is normal
for many couples, but it’s far healthier to interact
with other people regularly.
5. Lack of self-knowledge for couples.
If one or both partners aren't in
tune with their own
interests, needs, desires, future plans, goals,
values, and preferences, then it’s difficult for
them to build a better marriage or healthy love
relationship. Self-knowledge helps partners
communicate who they are and what they want
in a relationship, which can prevent problems.
6. Low self-esteem, insecurity, and lack of self-
confidence.
Relationships fail because one
partner feels unworthy of being loved. This
insecurity can lead to possessiveness and
dependence, which isn’t healthy for either
partner in the love relationship. Couples break up
because of insecurity and jealousy.
7. Excessive jealousy
– one of the most
common reasons relationships fail . “Jealousy is
cited as one of the most frequent causes of the
breakup of romantic relationships,” writes Hock.
Delusional jealousy can trigger abuse and
violence, which can (and should) be why a
couple breaks up! Delusional jealousy isn’t as
common as “normal” jealousy, but both can
cause serious relationship problems
.
8. Ineffective communication.
Both partners need
to be able to share their thoughts, feelings,
opinions, values, needs, frustrations, and joys.
Sometimes couples avoid speaking honestly and
hide their true selves, which may not always lead
to a break up…but it doesn’t strengthen their
bond!
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If one partner is trying to
control or manipulate the other, the relationship
can become weak or destructive. Controlling
behaviors include checking up on the partner,
name-calling, threatening the partner, requiring
the partner to check in all the time, or not
allowing any deviations from the schedule. These
signs of obsessive love may not cause the
couple to break up, but it is a sign of an
unhealthy relationship.
10. Unhealthy physical behavior
– which
shouldn’t be part of a love relationship! This is
an obvious relationship problem that should lead
to an immediate break up! Physical, intimate,
and emotional abuse are attempts to gain total
control over a partner. Though relationships like
this should end immediately, couples stay
together stay for various reasons.
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